Okay, I just couldn't resist the title line.
I finally heard from Robert this morning. I think, only because I sent him a text last night telling him, he needed to watch the minutes on the cell phone. Otherwise, I'm not sure he would have called me. And, I am not calling him at this point because I just can't do it right now.
He said, do I really have to watch the minutes? I said yes, I've been talking to Maggie and they don't have Verizon anymore. They are on Sprint. He asked if it was cheaper and if a couple of others were. I said I didn't know but I wouldn't even think of switching until the contract was up. But, what he was getting at and said, all had to do with saving money. Not his problem at this point.
When he called I asked how he was doing. He said he was alright. I said are you really alright, and he said yes. Compared to stuff others are going through, he is. I said, so it's all relative.
He asked if I was picking on him and I told him no. It's know different than me saying I'm okay at therapy and my T knows better. Based on everything going on, I'm doing okay - it's all relative. I didn't ask him what was going on. I am at the point where, if he wants me to know, he should be telling me. I shouldn't have to drag it out of him.
He also made a point of saying (and I don't remember his exact words), that I sounded like I wasn't all there (meaning I was distant). He did it as a question. I said, you are asking the obvious, you already know the answer.
He was at work but he wasn't working. He said he feels most at peace when he is around cars. I told him he needs to find something else to do with his life besides working on cars.
He can't rely on cars and me to be his life.
Speaking of cars - I went to Midas yesterday afternoon for an oil change. My first since I moved here. HA - an oil change is never an oil change. I left to the tune of $363. That's what I get for waiting so long. My next oil change will include changing the valve cover gasket. I can't wait!
On a good note: I saw my nutritionist on Thursday and I've lost 7 pounds and lost 1 1/2 inches around my waist in a month. It was the first time I actually wanted to get on a scale.
The town of Leland is starting a Citizen's Police Academy to inform citizens more of what they do. I am sending in my application and I'll see what happens. They only take 25 people. And they do a background check. I hope there are no "skeletons" in my closet that they find (lol).
Well, that is about it for now. More to come as there is more to share.
Saturday, April 19, 2008
Thursday, April 17, 2008
The latest news
It's been awhile since my last update and it's time to let you know what's been happening.
I know I haven't posted any pictures from Becky's vacation and I'll try to get to it but there are no promises. We had a great time and I was tired by the time she went home.
My friend Maggie has been having some major medical problems lately. She has had a terrible pain on the side of her face. She thought it was because of her teeth. She had her teeth taken care of but the pain persisted. They finally figured out what was going on. She has a condition called Trigeminal Neuralgia. It has to do with the nerves that run from the brain and they hit up against the blood vessels. There are up to 3 nerves that are involved and in her case it is all 3 nerves.
They have her on some big time medications. She is loopy, she is so doped up. She can't drive, she can barely do anything.
If the medications don't work, they can try and injection to block the nerve or do surgery. Right now they can't do anything because she has a kidney infection.
Before they do either the injection or surgery, they need to do an MRI to rule out a brain tumor.
That is scheduled for next week.
They are also doing test to make sure she doesn't have MS. This can also cause the condition she has.
And just in case her husband Charlie wasn't enough of an insensitive jerk, he signed them both up to be on a committee to represent their district. And the worst part is, it has to be a husband and wife team. He didn't ask her, he just did it. She is not at all happy about this.
We figure he did this just to make it harder for her to leave when she is able to.
I told her, don't let this stop you from leaving. She needs to take care of herself.
Oh and I have some good news. I started seeing a nutritionist a month ago and I went for my first follow up visit today. I have lost 7 pounds and 1 1/2 inches around my waist. And that's with very little exercise. I am excited.
I am sending the information that I have to Maggie so she can work with Ryan on getting him to eat better and have a variety of foods. My nutritionist even gave me a "fast food guide" that I can send to them. Maggie will also share the information with Tracey because she needs to lose some weight.
On the subject of Robert. I have no idea what he is doing right now. I haven't heard from him since Tuesday morning.
We talked some on Sunday. I asked him, "what do you have left to do before you will be able to move?"
First he started to tell me some things he was trying to do in order to get his bills paid. When he finished, I told him, that was nice but could he now answer my question - what did he have left to do? He is great at not directly answering my question.
So, this time he answers:
He has a student loan that he is paying off and he has car taxes to be paid off. This has been on going for a while. We all know that dealing with the town hall and trying to get things cleared up can be frustrating but he has been draging this out. He needs to go down to the town hall and get a print out of his account and check it against the payments he has made. He just hasn't been proactive in doing this.
When we spoke on Tuesday morning, he said they didn't have a lot to do at work and he would probably get out early. I told him it would be a good time to go get the information about the taxes. His response was, if I remember.
Back to Sunday - I said to him, so, when you get the taxes cleared up, you will be able to move and pay the other bills once you move.
He says, what other bills (being slightly defensive)? I said your student loan and whatever other bills you have.
I didn't come away from that conversion with a real good feeling.
Once we finished that conversation, he said can I ask my question now. I said sure. I was expecting some serious type question. He has been grilling me for a couple of weeks.
His question was: am I still going to buy the bed? I said, yeah but not until the bills are paid down. I'm not taking on any more debt.
To me, the new bed isn't that important. Obviously to him it is.
I have a bunch of other things to talk with him about but I figured it would be best to do them one at a time but it doesn't look like he is going to give me the chance any time soon.
So there it is - what's been happening in my life. More to follow soon.
I know I haven't posted any pictures from Becky's vacation and I'll try to get to it but there are no promises. We had a great time and I was tired by the time she went home.
My friend Maggie has been having some major medical problems lately. She has had a terrible pain on the side of her face. She thought it was because of her teeth. She had her teeth taken care of but the pain persisted. They finally figured out what was going on. She has a condition called Trigeminal Neuralgia. It has to do with the nerves that run from the brain and they hit up against the blood vessels. There are up to 3 nerves that are involved and in her case it is all 3 nerves.
They have her on some big time medications. She is loopy, she is so doped up. She can't drive, she can barely do anything.
If the medications don't work, they can try and injection to block the nerve or do surgery. Right now they can't do anything because she has a kidney infection.
Before they do either the injection or surgery, they need to do an MRI to rule out a brain tumor.
That is scheduled for next week.
They are also doing test to make sure she doesn't have MS. This can also cause the condition she has.
And just in case her husband Charlie wasn't enough of an insensitive jerk, he signed them both up to be on a committee to represent their district. And the worst part is, it has to be a husband and wife team. He didn't ask her, he just did it. She is not at all happy about this.
We figure he did this just to make it harder for her to leave when she is able to.
I told her, don't let this stop you from leaving. She needs to take care of herself.
Oh and I have some good news. I started seeing a nutritionist a month ago and I went for my first follow up visit today. I have lost 7 pounds and 1 1/2 inches around my waist. And that's with very little exercise. I am excited.
I am sending the information that I have to Maggie so she can work with Ryan on getting him to eat better and have a variety of foods. My nutritionist even gave me a "fast food guide" that I can send to them. Maggie will also share the information with Tracey because she needs to lose some weight.
On the subject of Robert. I have no idea what he is doing right now. I haven't heard from him since Tuesday morning.
We talked some on Sunday. I asked him, "what do you have left to do before you will be able to move?"
First he started to tell me some things he was trying to do in order to get his bills paid. When he finished, I told him, that was nice but could he now answer my question - what did he have left to do? He is great at not directly answering my question.
So, this time he answers:
He has a student loan that he is paying off and he has car taxes to be paid off. This has been on going for a while. We all know that dealing with the town hall and trying to get things cleared up can be frustrating but he has been draging this out. He needs to go down to the town hall and get a print out of his account and check it against the payments he has made. He just hasn't been proactive in doing this.
When we spoke on Tuesday morning, he said they didn't have a lot to do at work and he would probably get out early. I told him it would be a good time to go get the information about the taxes. His response was, if I remember.
Back to Sunday - I said to him, so, when you get the taxes cleared up, you will be able to move and pay the other bills once you move.
He says, what other bills (being slightly defensive)? I said your student loan and whatever other bills you have.
I didn't come away from that conversion with a real good feeling.
Once we finished that conversation, he said can I ask my question now. I said sure. I was expecting some serious type question. He has been grilling me for a couple of weeks.
His question was: am I still going to buy the bed? I said, yeah but not until the bills are paid down. I'm not taking on any more debt.
To me, the new bed isn't that important. Obviously to him it is.
I have a bunch of other things to talk with him about but I figured it would be best to do them one at a time but it doesn't look like he is going to give me the chance any time soon.
So there it is - what's been happening in my life. More to follow soon.
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